Dated : Mei 2008

1. Every child needs the “V” Love. Masculine (Father) Love flowing down from one side and Feminine (Mother) Love flowing down from the other. Some children have a broken “V”. And when the “V” is broken by the same gender parent of the child – the child will develop a Vacuum Issue!

2. The Vacuum Issue is….
a. A compulsive (uncontrollable) need to be loved by certain others of the same gender
b. A compulsive (uncontrollable) need to love certain others of the same gender

3. General information about the Vacuum Issue….
a. It can exist in a person - mildly, moderately or severely
b. It is a human issue - NOT a homosexual issue
c. One could be having it - without him/her even being aware that it is an issue
d. Just because one has it – it does not mean he / she is gay
e. No one is born with any Vacuum Issue
f. It is the consequences of a certain experience during childhood
g. It can be stagnant or be resolved
h. It causes the individual to go in search for a solution through one way or another
i. It will surely bring challenges into a person’s life in one way or another
• Various kinds of addiction
• Emotional Dependency
• Homosexuality

4. Some symptoms of the Vacuum Issues…
a) Always in the look out for potential individuals (same gender) to get close to (this becomes his / her goal for living)
b) Will do nearly anything and everything to get the attention of certain others of the same gender
c) Believing that sex with the same gender is the way to resolve his / her Vacuum Issue THUS becoming sexually promiscuous with others of the same gender
d) Believing that sex with the same gender is the way to resolve his / her Vacuum Issue (yet not daring / no opportunity to act it our directly) THUS becoming addicted to homosexual pornographic

5. Examples for the occurrence of the Vacuum Issues…
a) The physical absence of the same gender parent at pre-puberty
b) The emotional absence of the same gender parent at pre-puberty
c) Being around the same gender parent that is favoritism – against the child
d) Being around an abusive same gender parent

6. A step to take - that can avoid the occurrence of the Vacuum Issue…
When there is an absence of the child’s same gender parent – it is important that the child gets connected to some other same gender authoritative figure – like uncle / auntie, grandparent, godparent and etc.

7. How does the Vacuum Issue lead one to homosexuality…?
a) At puberty – it is natural that one begins to open up to the romantic / sexual life
b) YET the Vacuum issue causes the individual to be obsess with getting love and loving certain others of the same gender
c) The merging of the desire for a romantic / sexual life (at puberty) WITH the obsession for a certain others of the same gender (the Vacuum issue) – takes place
d) The development of a Homosexual Orientation

8. Steps of resolving the Vacuum Issues…
Counseling – experiencing a change of mindset concern one’s actual need (love NOT sex from others of the same gender)
Learning the meaning of sharing Deep Platonic Relationship (DPR) with others of the same gender
Being open to sharing DPR with others of the same gender

*Sharing Session…
1. How was your relationship with your same gender parent as a child?
2. Do you share a DPR with someone in your life? If yes – please share the good that the relationship brings into your life

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